Aftercare Services

Our aftercare aftercare program assists those who need some additional emotional support, either in the early days of loss and grieving or later. We maintain close ties with community support groups, counselors, psychologists, and other community service professionals, and we sponsor memorial services, seminars, and workshops in cooperation with public health agencies. Call us if you need a speaker, would like to schedule a tour or visit our library, or have questions about any of the events on our calendar.

 

Lensing Community Library

Our lending library contains hundreds of books and videos about grief, loss, death, and healing. It includes factual books for dealing with children and loss (including other kinds of loss, such as divorce and moving); books specific to special situations, such as a military-related death or the death of an infant; classics about the process of death and dying; and personal memoirs by respected authors. Located in our Kirkwood Avenue location, the library is open to anyone during regular business hours.


Top Ten Titles

 

Adults

Living When a Loved One Has Died
By Earl Grollman
Published by Beacon Press Boston, MA
Easy to read passages that discuss the emotional and physical aspects of grief.

 

Remembering with Love
By Elizabeth Levang and Sherokee Ilse
Published by Deaconess Press Minneapolis, MN
Over three hundred short, inspirational, easy to read passages on all aspects of grief.

 

No Time for Goodbyes
By Janice Harris Lord
Published by Pathfinder Publishing of California Ventura, CA
Coping suggestions for survivors grieving a loved one who was killed. Includes chapter on dealing with the criminal justice system.

 

Gentle Closings
By Ted Menten
Published by Running Press Philadelphia, PA
Stories about how to say good-bye to someone you love.

 

The Bereaved Parent
By Harriet Schiff
Published by Penguin Books New York, NY
A book for parents whose child has died written by a woman whose son died.

 

Men and Grief
By Carol Staudacher
Published by New Harbinger Publications Oakland, CA
This book begins to explore male responses to the death of a loved one. It offers awareness, insight and encouragement to men who need to grieve.

Don't Take My Grief Away
By Doug Manning
Published by Harper Collins New York, NY
Short chapters which address the emotions and decisions that confront the bereaved following the death of a loved one.

 

Empty Arms: Coping with miscarriage, stillbirth and infant death
By Sherokee Ilse
Published by Wintergreen Press Long Lake, MN
Practical guidance as well as emotional support for parents who have experienced the death of an infant.

 

Beyond Grief - A Guide for Recovering from the Death of a Loved One
By Carol Staudacher
Published by New Harbinger Publications Oakland, CA
A how to cope book covering a variety of losses; fills in gaps for many different types of death and the grief that follows.

 

How to Survive the Loss of a Love
By Melba Colgrove, Harold Bloomfield and Peter McWilliams
Published by Prelude Press Los Angeles, CA
Poems and passages in easy to read form that address the issues of loss of a friend, spouse or mate.

 

Children

Tell Me, Papa
By Joy and Marvin Johnson
Published by Centering Corporation Omaha, NE
Easy to read book that explains death and the funeral. Does nice job briefly explaining cremation and body donation.

 

Where’s Jess
By Joy and Marv Johnson
Published by Centering Corporation Omaha, NE
A book written for siblings about when a baby dies. Discusses the feelings experienced by family members and the changes that occur within the family.

 

Lifetimes
By Bryan Mellonie and Robert Ingpen
Published by Bantam Books New York, NY
Beautifully illustrated book which explains the cycles in life: plants , animals and people.

 

The Saddest Time
By Norma Simon and Jacqueline Rogers
Published by Albert Whitman and Co. Niles, IL
Three stories for children, all in one book, about the death of an uncle, a classmate and a grandmother. Feelings, life cycles and the funeral are also discussed.

 

Teenagers Face to Face with Bereavement
By Karen Gravelle and Charles Haskins
Published by Julian Messner Englewood Cliffs, NJ
Several young people express their feelings as they experience and cope with the death of a parent, sibling or close friend. Written by and for teenagers.

 

When Someone Dies
By Sharon Greenlee
Published by Peachtree Publishers Atlanta, GA
Good for both children and adults, this book talks about the feelings experienced when someone dies and gives suggestions for surviving the changes that occur with a death.

 

The Fall of Freddie the Leaf
By Leo Buscaglia
Published by Slack Inc. New York, NY
Explains the cycle of life and death using the change of seasons and a leaf named Freddie. Great for young children.

 

Losing Uncle Tim
By Mary Kate Jordan
Published by Albert Whitman and Co. Niles, IL
The illness and death of a favorite uncle from AIDS is sensitively told by his young nephew.

 

The Seasons of Grief: Helping Your Children Through Loss
By Donna Gaffney
Published by New American Library New York, NY
Helpful resource for parents that addresses many of the questions and concerns that arise when a child faces the death of a loved one.

 

A Quilt for Elizabeth
By Benette W. Tiffault
Published by Centering Corporation Omaha, NE
After her father’s death, Elizabeth and her grandmother make a quilt and share their memories and feelings about him.

 

The Tenth Good Thing About Barney
By Judith Viorst
Published by Atheneum/Macmillan Press New York, NY
A book about the death and burial of the family pet cat and how one little boy tries to understand what death is about and his feelings about his cat.

 

Bonus Books

Love You Forever
By Robert Munsch
Published by Firefly Books Willowdale, Ontario, Canada
A whimsical story for adults and children about parents and children and the life cycle.

 

The Next Place
By Warren Hanson
A wonderfully illustrated book that addresses the questions and fears we have of where loved ones go after death.

 

When Bad Things Happen to Good People
By Harold Kushner
Published by Avon Books New York, NY
Making sense out of the question “why” is difficult and often a struggle for those of any faith following a death or crisis. This book examines these often difficult and painful issues.


Books for Children

Tell Me, Papa

By: Joy and Marvin Johnson

Easy to read book that explains death and the funeral. Does a nice job of briefly explaining cremation and body donation.

 



Where's Jess

By: Joy and Marv Johnson

A book written for siblings about when a baby dies. 



 

Lifetimes

By: Bryan Mellonie and Robert Ingpen

Beautifully illustrated book which explains the cycles in life: plants, animals and people.



The Saddest Time

By: Norma Simon and Jacqueline Rogers
Three stories for children, all in one book, about the death of an uncle, a classmate and a grandmother. 



 

Teenagers Face to Face with Bereavement

By: Karen Gravelle and Charles Haskins

Several young people express their feelings as they experience and cope with the death of a parent, sibling or close friend. 



 

When Someone Dies

By: Sharon Greenlee

Good for both children and adults, this book talks about the feelings experienced when someone dies and gives suggestions for surviving the changes that occur.



 

The Fall of Freddie the Leaf

By: Leo Buscaglia

Explains the cycle of life and death using the change of seasons and a leaf named Freddie. 



 

Losing Uncle Tim

By: Mary Kate Jordan

The illness and death of a favorite uncle from AIDS is sensitively told by his young nephew.

 



A Quilt for Elizabeth

By: Benette W. Tiffault

After her father's death, Elizabeth and her grandmother make a quilt and share their memories and feelings about him.



 

The Tenth Good Thing About Barney

By: Judith Viorst

A book about the death and burial of the family pet cat and how one little boy tries to understand what death is about and his feelings about his cat.

 



The Next Place

By: Warren Hanson

An illustrated book that addresses the questions and fears we have of where loved ones go after death.


Books for Adults

Living When a Loved One Has Died
By Earl Grollman
Published by Beacon Press Boston, MA
Easy to read passages that discuss the emotional and physical aspects of grief.

 

Remembering with Love
By Elizabeth Levang and Sherokee Ilse
Published by Deaconess Press Minneapolis, MN
Over three hundred short, inspirational, easy to read passages on all aspects of grief.

 

No Time for Goodbyes
By Janice Harris Lord
Published by Pathfinder Publishing of California Ventura, CA
Coping suggestions for survivors grieving a loved one who was killed. Includes chapter on dealing with the criminal justice system.

 

Gentle Closings
By Ted Menten
Published by Running Press Philadelphia, PA
Stories about how to say good-bye to someone you love.

 

The Bereaved Parent
By Harriet Schiff
Published by Penguin Books New York, NY
A book for parents whose child has died written by a woman whose son died.

 

Men and Grief
By Carol Staudacher
Published by New Harbinger Publications Oakland, CA
This book begins to explore male responses to the death of a loved one. It offers awareness, insight and encouragement to men who need to grieve.

 

Don't Take My Grief Away
By Doug Manning
Published by Harper Collins New York, NY
Short chapters which address the emotions and decisions that confront the bereaved following the death of a loved one.

 

Empty Arms: Coping with miscarriage, stillbirth and infant death
By Sherokee Ilse
Published by Wintergreen Press Long Lake, MN
Practical guidance as well as emotional support for parents who have experienced the death of an infant.

 

Beyond Grief - A Guide for Recovering from the Death of a Loved One
By Carol Staudacher
Published by New Harbinger Publications Oakland, CA
A how to cope book covering a variety of losses; fills in gaps for many different types of death and the grief that follows.

 

How to Survive the Loss of a Love
By Melba Colgrove, Harold Bloomfield and Peter McWilliams
Published by Prelude Press Los Angeles, CA
Poems and passages in easy to read form that address the issues of loss of a friend, spouse or mate.

Books for Helping a Friend Whose Spouse has Died

(Lensing Funeral & Cremation Service Lending Library)

When You’ve Become A Widow: A Compassionate Guide to Rebuilding Your Life
By Genevieve Davis Ginsburg

 

Doors Close, Doors Open – Widows, Grieving and Growing
By Morton Lieberman

 

For Women Who Grieve – Embracing Life After the Death of Your Partner
By Tangea Tansley

 

Women in Mourning
By Jean Clayton

 

I Never Know What to Say – How to Help Your Family and Friends Cope with Tragedy
By Nina Herrmann Donnelley

 

Using Grief to Grow ~ How You Can Help/How to Get Help
By Johnette Hartnett

 

You Can Help Someone Who’s Grieving
By Victoria Frigo, Diane Fisher, Mary Lou Cook

Books for Teenagers

(Lensing Funeral & Cremation Service Lending Library)

Teenagers Face to Face with Bereavement
By Karen Gravelle & Charles Haskins
Julian Messner, a division of Simon & Schuster: Englewood Cliffs 1989

 

Straight Talk About Death for Teenagers
By Earl Grollman
Beacon Press: Boston 1993

 

The Seasons of Grief – Helping Children Grow Through Loss
By Dr. Donna Gaffney
Plume, a division of Penguin Books: New York NY 1988

 

Helping Children Grieve – When Someone They Love Dies
By Theresa Huntley
Augsburg Fortress: Minneapolis 1991

 

The Dying and The Bereaved Teenager
Edited by John Morgan
The Charles Press: Philadelphia 1990


Books for Pet Loss

(Lensing Funeral & Cremation Service Lending Library)

 

Loss of a Pet for Adults

Coping with Sorrow on the Loss of Your Pet
Anderson, Moira

 

Good-bye My Friend
Montgomery, Mary & Herb

 

Pet Loss
Nieburg, Herbert & Fischer, Arlene

 

Losing Your Dog
Gustafson, Mickie

 

The Tao of Dying
Smith, Doug

 

When Your Pet Dies
Quackenbush, Jamie and Denise Graveline.

 

Exits
Slater, Scott and Alec Solomita

 

Children's Books - Death of a Pet

A Funeral for Whiskers
Balter, Dr. Lawrence

 

The Accident
Carrick, Carol

 

Jim’s Dog Muffins
Cohen, Miriam

 

Remember Rafferty
Johnson, Joy

 

Good-bye My Friend
Montgomery, Herb & Mary

 

When a Pet Dies
Rogers, Fred

 

It Must Hurt A Lot
Sanford, Doris

 

The Tenth Good Thing About Barney
Viorst, Judith

 

I’ll Always Love You
Wilhelm, Hans




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